We all lie. I’ve lied and I know you have too. Everyone says they aren’t going to but end up lying anyway due to the fact that sometimes that’s all they’d like to do so they don’t have to take responsibility for their actions. The problem with this is that if you don’t take responsibility with your actions how then can you take the credit for your rewards?
With Your Blog
There’s thousands upon thousands of blogs online these days that all have something to talk about. Hell, off the blog topic, on Twitter alone you can find out pretty much anything you’re looking for if you’re following the right people. So there’s obviously ways of getting information across the world easily but you already knew that.
Back to your blog though. If you lie on your blog and you don’t take responsibility for it then how on earth can you say you did good when things turn out well for you? You need to fess up and just admit you messed up and explain your action plan for doing better the next time. Millions of people can see your blog and if you mess up, sure they’re going to know but at least they’ll know it when you fess up and admit you’re just as human as they are.
With Your Life
If you go around lying to everyone just because you would rather have things easy you’re only going to hurt yourself in the end. One lie adds to another and before you know it you’re in deep doo doo. Stop in your tracks and just admit you messed up. This is even more important than blogging because this could be to your boss (unless you’re a pro blogger and actually have money coming in) or to your friends or family or anyone who is important to you. Don’t lie, it’s not worth it.
With Your Money
I can’t go into how important it is NOT to lie with your money in one paragraph so I’ll do the best I can here. All I can say is don’t. You may be wondering how on earth you can lie with your money? Simple. Overspend or use a credit card and not a debit card or cash. Cash is the safest by all means but at least with a debit card you’re not AS bad about spending.
With cash, when you’re done, you’re done. There’s no more and that means there’s literally no more you can spend. With a debit card it depends on either your bank or the place of purchase. I’ve gone deep into the whole in my checking account for just over spending by a few dollars. Worth it, hell no! With a credit card I’m sure it’s much worse and the interest just doesn’t do you any favors. I can’t talk from personal experience on this one though… I’ve never owned a credit card and never plan to for as long as I can help it. Why? Do you really have to ask that question?
So, is it true… Do lies really make big messes with any and/or every area of your life or can you get by with lying for a long time? What’s the point of lying anyway and lastly if you lie about something and NOT fess up to it do you actually get to take credit when you DO tell the truth and things work out or not?
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Top work man and you never owning a credit card is a good thing man, some will tell you it’s bad for your credit rating not owning one, don’t beleive em man stick to your guns.
On lying yeah the world revolves around it, some good lies ”it will be OK” when you know it won’t, and some bad ”Yeah I will do that”
Human nature is a funny thing man, this needs more thought than you think top work man
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James,
Thanks a million brother. Yeah if I can’t pay for it with cold hard cash or have it come directly out of my checking account, there’s really no point in having it, period.
The truth hurts most of the time but that’s mainly because it’s not a “soft lie”. You’ve gotta learn to just tell the truth because it truly will set you free. But what I strongly feel most people (myself definitely included) have to learn is that before even telling the truth you should have an action plan to fix whatever might have happened that you’re having to tell the truth about. Therefore, it shows you’re being honest, up front, and ready to fix your mistakes and move on.
Thanks for commenting!
Great job of detailing the consequences of lying, Eric.
I agree that everyone lies. More so than others, of course. And, some lies are more serious than others. I think we all know which those are though.
At the end of the day, can you face yourself in the mirror? If not, then maybe you need to do less lying and more work on building your integrity.
Credit cards can get a bad wrap, but they can definitely be used for good though. With any tool, proper usage is required.
Karen
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Karen,
Thanks Karen. Lies are something we all deal with on a daily basis and hopefully we all eventually learn to tell the truth up front but for too many of us we end up causing a great deal of damage before the truth finally comes out and then things just get worse; not because of what may have happened but because we’ve been caught in the lie.
As for credit cards, yes they can help out greatly if use correctly. I feel that if you can’t handle a debit card then you can’t handle a credit card. If you can handle a debit card then maybe you can handle a credit card. Then again, I wouldn’t know as I’ve never had a credit card and don’t plan to unless for absolute, no other possible way, emergencies.
What do you think?
I’m reading a book called “Faking It” which delves into just how much we lie, even to ourselves. I like how you tied this into money. I don’t agree about the credit cards. Two things a CC does: enhances your credit rating, and makes money for you. Of course you have to have the discipline to make this work.
My CC companies pay me (literally) to make purchases. If I ever have to pay them any sort of fee, I too will return to cash – if that is still around.
Great post.
Thanks for the comment Hal,
I’ve not heard of that book and will have to look into it.
I appreciate the fact that you like how I tied lying and all into how we use our money and such. Credit cards are a big issue for a lot of people but yes if used correctly and carefully they can do great things. It’s not the tool that gets people into trouble it’s how you use the tool and too many people abuse credit cards which is why they have a bad rep.
I just think I am not sure I would use one correctly and would rather not jump into something to do with one until I’ve better managed my cash handling and debit card use.
Thanks again for the comment!
It is indeed very easy to lie but it’s so difficult sometimes to admit this fault especially to the person we lied to. Anyway, I think we can avoid lying in our posts by seeing our readers as our friends who depend on us for advice and are in need of help.
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Julius,
You’re absolutely right. Building a strong community of people who we learn to know and depend on can really help us in seeing a lie from a distance and also so we feel as though we really should honest with one another.
Thanks again for taking the time to leave your comment!
Hope you had a wonderful Easter.
Thanks for hitting me deep with this. Many times I have lied but I was coward enough to take responsibility. But as I grow wiser, I learned the consequences of my irresponsible acts.
Walter,
We all learn and grow in different ways and different times. Learning to take responsibility for our actions, thoughts, attitude, everything is key to living a more fulfilling life.
Thanks for commenting. I really appreciate it.
I don’t like lying. I mean of course I have lied before. It partly depends on what you are lying about. If you are lying to not make someone feel bad, is that actually bad? What do you consider lying? For example sometimes I don’t tell people about some things because I know that they would feel bad because of me telling them. Is that lying? Btw. I am back
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Julius,
In my personal opinion if you are keeping something from someone because you don’t want to hurt them it’s still a difficult line to be on. If they ask you how you feel, of course you should tell them and work on putting a positive spin on things if you can. Otherwise, if it’s going to hurt them it all is up to the person at hand I think.
I’d want to know how someone feels about me but if it’s going to cause conflict some how and they’d rather not tell unless I ask, that’s fine. Unless they take things too far and can’t handle being considerate.
A lie is a lie in my opinion. It’s just a line you have to really consider where you’re at on.
Really great comment, thanks!
Hmm interesting point. Of course I would tell someone how I felt if he asked me. I would be honest. But see what my point was that for example if you knew that your girlfriend was jealous whenever you would meet with another female friend would you then go ahead and tell her how you met the this friend of yours and what a great time you had knowing that it would make her jealous?! That’s what I try to avoid. I don’t want to make people worry too much because I don’t believe they need to.
You know what I mean?
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Julius,
I know what you mean. I would probably do the same thing but I would still let her know that I love HER and NOT the girl I was just friends with and that she has nothing to worry about. I would keep working on it until she felt comfortable because her comfort is what I want and if there’s another female friend I have and she doesn’t like, there’s a problem and we all need to work something out somehow.
I understand however. It’s a fine line many people aren’t sure if they should even consider crossing.
Thanks for the comment!
The easiest way to lie is denial. LIke you mentioned, spending more money than you have using your CC and just saying ‘Oh yeah, it’s fine’. Well, did you check your balance lately?!
Good point there, Eric!
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Hey Moon,
It’s never a good idea to spend more than you have especially with how some people are with their credit cards.
Thanks for the comment!
Essential stuff, Eric !
I barely use my credit card, it’s just so ridiculous how much money you squander with it.
And about telling the truth – it’s not only human, but it
also improves your authenticity. On my blog posts, I actually
mention what works out and what doesn’t. I openly admit my
mistakes and the feedback is just awesome.
So many people are scared of telling the truth because they think it’ll damage them, when in fact the opposite is the case !
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Mars,
I like my debit card but really like cash. I mainly like the debit because it’s fast and convenient but then I have to make sure I record things. I like cash because it’s just there or it’s not but there’s nothing to record when spent really.
On telling the truth, it’s because of embarrassment and people don’t want to take a chance of looking like a fool when in reality they’ll look better for admitting things and fixing them than trying to cover up. Everyone’s different though.
The truth is never different.
Thanks for the comment!